St. Paul tells us that one of the characteristics of love is that it is kind (1 Cor. 13:4). If love is kind, then should not its tender beauty shine especially at home? Home is the place we live with those who are most near and dear to us. Yet, sometimes home is where we forget to be kind.
We treat our guests in our home with great kindness. If someone spills something on our carpet, it is promptly excused, “Don’t worry! It can happen to anyone. It is an old carpet anyway.” But if one of our children does the same, they are typically given a tongue lashing.
Notice, if you will, how Dad treats his customers at work. No matter what they do or say, the customer is always right. He tries to never lose his temper with them for fear of losing the business. He uses a soft, pleasant voice when speaking with them; always kind and ingratiating.
When he comes home, though, you would not believe it is the same person. His whole attitude changes. His tone becomes harsh, his temper flares, and the words are caustic. He takes his stress out on those whom he loves.
If we would treat our children with the same kindness and consideration with which we treat our guests and customers, what a more peaceful homelife we would have. Yes, they can try our patience from time to time, but they may be reflecting what they learn.
Children are a reflection of their parents if the are loved by them; and a reaction to them if they are treated unfairly harshly. Treating our children unkindly builds up animosity in them and eventually leads to rebellion. Treating them kindly exemplifies our acknowledgement that they are a gift from God, brief visitors from heaven in our homes.
Remember, “love is kind” especially at home to those nearest and dearest to us.
Adapted from Anthony Coniaris, Making God Real in the Orthodox Christian Home
